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Why We should Wait for Marriage to Have Sex (Backed by Science)

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Westerners and Easterners have different perceptions on how to deal with sex urges, particularly about having sexual intercourse before marriage. Westerners generally accept the culture of sex before marriage, in dating or even hook-ups. Even though some Easterners are OK with that, the discussions about this remains taboo and unacceptable. I am lucky to several time have some real discussions with several Westerners about this culture. When I was asked about why I should hold on, even without the absence of the desire to do so, I replied that I'm not allowed, the religion reason. However, I can still see the big question on their minds, moreover when they do not embrace the same principles that have been planted to the Easterners heads since we were just kids. When we have different roots, it's difficult to share the understandings. Recently, somehow I got the answers incidentally when I learned about humans behaviors, and I would like to share you about this. As a disclaimer, this article does not mean to judge your choices of life, some dimensions and circumstances work differently between people and I understand that.

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Was Alain de Botton Right on How We Choose Our Partner?

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From his video series in The School of Life, at least several times I caught on how Alain de Botton thinks about human behavior on finding their partner. According to de Botton, humans are only attracted to, even when we agree that we are free to choose our partners, certain type of people. Here, we tend to choose familiar people. This is because, said de Botton, that we want to recreate the feeling of love that we experienced when we were just small. The negative impact of this kind of behavior is that we choose difficult partners. So, there could be a case when instead we choose the kind ones, we choose those who fulfill our needs for suffering in similar ways that we got in our childhood. However, just because this guy talked on Ted and also has a channel that nearly reaches 5 million subscribers, should we just automatically believe in what he says? To know the answer, particularly about this idea of choosing a partner, I did a small research on Instagram. Does the result counter the notion that de Botton brought?

Do People Around Me Tend to be Tournament or Pair-Bonding Species? :))

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It began from my curiosity about the genetic algorithm that I decided to learn more about biology. After that decision, it's like that every day comes with new dissonances. Knowing that animal behaviors are readable was actually hard enough for me, till knowing a kind of species that are called Tournament species. As a fairy-tale believer and infused-with-romanticism species since when I was just a kid, it was the hardest LoL. Did reality just ruin my life? Okay, if humans are in-between these two categories, somewhere between tournament species and pair-bonding species, at least what about in my social circle? What is the probability of me getting the pair-bonding-tended man? This maybe sound cringy, but I really did a small research to find out the answer.

Selfies Still Sell

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At the end of 2018, I got an eye-opening finding from my Instagram posts. From 136 posts (image only), my data showed me that the post with natural faces got more likes. In the other hand, the posts that contained merely about ideas (meaning not containing natural faces) got fewer likes. The results can be charted as follows.

Should You Trust First Impressions?

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Up until today, people still tend to make their decisions based on first impressions. They will usually hate or love someone or something till the end of their lives based on the first hour they spend their time with those people or things. This essay will elaborate on why the opposite idea is the best wisdom for people.